Here’s the picture of the baby in its second month
That afternoon, it was the second time we saw our baby using that USG device -can you see the head (green) and the eyes (picture in the right)?. He is about the size of my thumb and I saw him swimming freely. My God, what a wonderful sight! We celebrate the moment by “makan sate ayam” (having indonesian chicken satay) before going back home. It was the best chicken satay I ever had.
Talking about satay .. satay is a grilled sticked meat , much like a shaslick, which my wife would love to have anytime during her first three months pregnancy. Indonesian called these first three months as “bulan-bulan ngidam”. They are the harder months in having a pregnant wife. Woman’s sense of smell became so sensitive that they can smell steamed rice from hundreds of meters away -and saying that it stinks (rice? stinks? oh please!). Many of them don’t want to eat at all, luckily my wife wasn’t suffering to much from this “ngidam”symptoms. Every now and then she would refuse to eat anything except chicken satay, and satay became our regular diet. Thanks God that satay is a meal full of nutrition and protein, though I think it has too much carbon, but all and all I don’t have to worry too much about nutrition for my baby. Of course the doctor did give some food supplement and vitamins for her -which sometimes I also like to take (which made me gain about 8 kilograms in 8 months .. ).
See him sitting there? (photo on the left)
In this third month, somehow the lady doctor was able to see what I couldn’t. That afternoon after looking briefly to the USG monitor she said ,”Well, sir. It’s a he”. I wouldn’t lie by saying I wasn’t delighted. I was always wanted a son for my first child, although at the same time I was also saying to everybody that it doesn’t matter to me whether it was going to be a boy or a girl -I guess every parents wouldn’t want to be seen disappointed if they found out that the child they’re going to have is not in the sex they expected ( i had a hard time writing this in English, but you got what i meant , do you?). And don’t get me wrong, I’d love a little girl too -I guess. But I felt I would be a better father if I had a baby boy first -at least I know what a boy would love to play with his father. Did I mention that I only had a big brother in my family? That, i guess, had something to do with my wish to have a baby boy as my first child.
On his fourth month we held a “syukuran empat bulanan”. It is a custom of Indonesian muslim to thank God for blowing His holy spirit into the baby’s body. We believe he’s finally a human being at the time -a person with a body and a soul which I should give the same respect I gave to other human being. I also remember that I had to lead the prayer my self since I had nobody else to do it for me. Man, I fell like a father already!
The fifth month
It was our first time to see his face -close up (see green area on above picture). “Is he going to look like me or like his mother?”, that’s the first thing that came up into my mind. Is there going to be another person who look just like me in the world? I beginning to feel excited and yet so relax. This pregnancy thing turned up to be a joyride after all. After six months, the fetus had grown much stronger that we didn’t have to worry too much about miscarriage and stuff like that. I also feel that the baby had really became a part of the family and I kinda got used to all these things.
My son had grown so big that he wouldn’t fit into the USG monitor -all you’d see in the monitor is one big mass of something which is constantly moving. Doctor Sophie her self seemed to be interested in measuring the size of the baby’s head for some reason. I believe the baby was supposed to had developed some sort of intelligence by then, because whenever I press my finger on my wife’s tummy -he’d kick or punch back (my very first lessons on self defense technique to him If somebody is pushing you around -kick him back! .. ha ha ha)
Doctor Sophie predicted that my wife was going to give birth to my son in her eight and a half month of her pregnancy. This is due to the medical history of her mother and her sister who also gave birth during their 8,5 month of their pregnancy. Meaning that I must prepare everything by the eight month .. a.k.a baby stuff shopping week! First of all, we created a long list of baby’s needs: clothes, hats, socks, mittens, shoes, blankets, pillows, bed sheets, milk bottles, diapers, and so on and so on. Then we went to the nearest baby shop and buy those stuff on the list. The good thing is we didn’t find to much problem shopping since we are both aren’t shopaholic -we did it fast and accurate 🙂
A much bigger problem is choosing which hospital for the delivery.Doctor Sophie gave us a list of hospitals for us to choose -complete with the price list, list of practicing doctors, etc. All good ones are of course expensive while choosing a cheap one somehow would be a bit risky (so we thought -we’re so rookies!). We did some survey directly to some of the hospital to make sure that what they wrote on the brochures are true and updated. Finally we chose Hermina Mother and Baby Hospital which was the closest one to our house. It was a brand new hospital where doctor Sophie also practice as a gynecologist. After all the preparation was set, all we needed to do was to wait -but waiting was probably the most exhausting and brain-draining activity of all. I wish I could skipped the waiting if I had to do all over again. I just couldn’t wait to meet my Baby Samudra!